This is a simple way of preventing escalation when there is conflict in relationships.
These principles apply to any relationship, whether it be between romantic partners, parent and child, siblings, friends, shopper and store clerk, or strangers.
Do you relate to this familiar scenario? You get into a spat with your partner, or it could be a family member, friend, or other.
First of all, it is helpful to recognize that people are complicated and the relationship between two complicated people from two different backgrounds is going to be complicated and requires some work to stay healthy.
Within every relationship or family are systems, or dynamics. These systems or dynamics are important to understand if you want to achieve healthy relationships and healthy families.
Sometimes the sun is shining, and you can experience its brightness and warmth. Other times, it is stormy and the clouds are thick and low, with rain or snow falling.
It can often be challenging parenting. You want to be effective in influencing your children’s behaviour in a way that is good for them and for you.
Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself, the other, and the relationship, even if you choose to not continue to remain in contact.
Sometimes, depending on the circumstances, a simple “I am sorry” is sufficient, or even all that is appropriate.
We have all been hurt in relationships, whether it be with our parents, siblings, friends or romantic partners.
Whereas love is necessary and awesome, unfortunately it is not sufficient by itself to make for a healthy-enough relationship where two people can be happy enough.